You’re frightening me. My wife and I are trying to start a family. And she’s the hottest woman ever to walk the earth. I’d hate to think that sex will be so darn hard after we have a baby!

Ian: According to eminent marriage therapist John Gottman, 67 percent of couples have a precipitous drop in relationship happiness in the first three years of their first baby’s life. It’s unfortunate that this amazing time comes with that kind of baggage. But then again, growth is often uncomfortable—and that’s what new families are doing -- growing, as individuals and as a couple. But that doesn’t mean it’s not good for you.

Heidi: And hey, don’t worry; JB still thinks I’m the hottest woman to ever walk the earth. I mean, I think he hit on me in the hospital room minutes after my C-section! My robe was open or something...Now, I’m often just the “hot, unattainable” woman walking the earth, or pacing the halls, at midnight, with a fussy baby. Yes, figuring this stuff out is hard. Things might not fall apart or slow down for you. But why not start talking about the what-ifs right now? Why not jump in and get proactive, since you’re no longer getting prophylactic?