"There's a very precise answer as to how long a cunnilingus
session should last - as long as it takes to bring her to orgasm"
- Ian Kerner author of the upcoming book She Comes First
In the never-ending search for material that does a female body
good, here comes a book that puts men in their places - smack
dab in between women's legs! At a time when the perspective
on female sexual pleasure ranges from confusion, "mystery" and
sometimes down right trepidation, Ian Kerner gives us She Comes
First – The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
– a manual for "consistently leading women to orgasm"
through...cunnilingus.
In the book, Ian Kerner, who is a clinical sexologist, insists
that "for all of the talk of sexual revolution these days men
know more about what is under the hood of a car than what is
under the clitoris." While that may be true for some and downright
insulting to others, it's worth checking out this book simply
for its explicit detailing of dozens tried-and-true and creative
techniques for getting a woman off through oral sex.
"Oral sex has long been deemed an arbitrary or optional aspect
of foreplay, but that it should be considered coreplay –
the best way for leading a woman through the entire process
of sexual response," says Kerner. The basic underlying premise
of the book is to dispel the "widely held myth of genital penetration"
as the be all, end all of sexual pleasure. By stating that "a
g-spot orgasm, like all female orgasms, is a clitoral orgasm;
its part of the same pleasure network" he is squarely positioned
in the clit is best camp.
Whatever one may think of that premise, Part Three - "Putting
it all together" - is the crown jewel of the book, which painstakingly
breaks down what steps and techniques actually work to get a
woman off and the physical mechanisms that occur while its happening.
Look for intricate descriptions of the physiological process
of female arousal and orgasm - "Of particular note will be the
darkening in color and deepening in luster of her inner labia,
as well as the retraction of the clitoral head into its hood
- both are signs that she's within ninety seconds of reaching
climax" and a breakdown of the female anatomy–"A woman's
clitoris has eighteen parts." Kerner offers a vast array of
tongue strokes, beginner, intermediate, and expert routines,
licking techniques, clitoral rhythms, stimulation of hot key
spots – all leading up to the culmination of the climax
and through to the very, very end of the last contraction...and
then on to the next orgasm...
She Comes First dispels mainstream imagery of the female
orgasm by proving that it does not just miraculously happen
on its own (nor should it) - and that with the right knowledge
and some hard won technique, pleasure comes first.
